Pain and Pleasure (TMI Tuesday)

It all looks the same. From Pain or Pleasure?

1. Which do you enjoy more in bed, pain or pleasure?

I like both. To me they are often one and the same. But that really isn’t an answer. ‘In bed’ I prefer fucking. So I guess pleasure is my answer. Generally a scene about pain is more focused on that than fucking… well, until I beg enough for cock that is…

2. Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?

I am not really ticklish. I enjoy the sensation of fingers and other things on my skin, but even if it is a ‘tickly’ sensation it just adds to the enjoyment. So I guess yes. And everywhere.

3. Have you ever used feathers during sex?

I have had them used on me. The one time that stands out in my memory was during a pain scene. I was blindfolded and so into the pain that the soft touch of the feathers felt like fire. Gentle fire. Very hot!

4. Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why?

I do. But not all of the time. It adds to the helpless feelings I enjoy so much, and it enhances input from my other senses. Other times, though, I want to see exactly what is in store for me… especially if I am reluctant. 

5. Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?

I haven’t done much with heat. Sir knows the threat of being burned intentionally is a huge fear thing for me. One that will get me soaked. So far it is still an effective mindfuck. Cold objects are fun. Refrigerated or frozen implements and tools, ice, exposure in cold situations… but I did have to add a hard limit for being beaten outside, naked, in the cold. I can’t process pain nearly as well when my body is trying to maintain core temperature.

6. Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?

I have enjoyed both. If I have to choose one, I will choose to be spanked. Fair warning, though… you should lay a towel down over your lap first. My juices will be running down your legs.

7. Do you have a safeword? Have you ever used it?

I use Red, Yellow, and Green. Of course I have used them. I think anyone in kink that hasn’t gotten close to a safeword isn’t being pushed well enough. And anyone that refuses to safeword ‘no matter what’ is just an idiot. It is usually just for a minor adjustment, something has fallen asleep, or some emotional things have bubbled to the surface. Whatever it is, I communicate it, it is addressed… or dismissed… at His discretion, and 99 times out of 100, the play continues.

Bonus: Tell us in 3-4 sentences the most painful or pleasurable sexual experience you have had.

I can’t choose a ‘most pleasurable’ but I definitely have a ‘most painful’. I went to a truly cruel and experienced sadist, alone. There was no actual sex, but it was very sexual, and it was the most intense pain experience I’ve ever had. I wrote about it here… well, what my brain would allow me to remember…

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2 Responses
  1. Mrs. M says:

    Great answers, loved 'em. Happy Tuesday! 🙂
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  2. dave94015 says:

    Do you prefer to be blindfolded during a pain session also? I liked your take on safewords…a session isn't very exciting if you're not pushing boundaries.
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